Have you ever felt inadequate at what you do? Especially when it comes to house cleaning, cooking, and keeping the family running smoothly? The list of expectations upon one person can be overwhelming, and can leave you feeling inadequate, when not achieved. I have a confession...I have felt very inadequate lately. I can only to seem to juggle a few things at once, if I want to see completed results. The minute I add too much though,
everything comes crashing down. I strive to come up with a balance in my life, where I can succeed in all areas important to me. For example, I feel I have mastered the daily tasks of homeschooling the kids, laundry, meals, dishes, and blogging. But, it bothers me that house cleaning and other tedious work have been placed on the back burner, and don't get done as regular as I would like. That right there, leaves me feeling inadequate. I know there are people out there who can knock out their housework in one day. Consider yourself lucky! I probably could too, if I weren't homeschooling the kids. But let's face it, I just don't have that many free hours at one given time-- it takes me 4-6 hours to clean the whole house from top to bottom, depending on interruptions!
Being a stay-at-home mom, I feel there are certain "chores" that fall on my shoulders. I figure my husband works full time, and doesn't need to come home to more work. Call me old-fashion. I recently tried a new approach, in an effort to accomplish the important chores.
- I made a list of everything I would like to get done on a weekly basis.
- I then looked at my calendar, and decided which days were more free than others.
- I than began to construct a "work week" for myself, being careful to assign certain chores and tasks together, on certain days of the week.
- Each day I look over my to-do list, and get to work. I try to complete all chores, prior to any other activities for the day.
- I have had to tweak the list and schedule over the course of a couple of weeks, making it work that much better.
What a difference it has made! It's not that I didn't have the time to complete all tasks before; it's that I didn't have the motivation. Something about having it officially in the schedule, written down on my weekly list, has "forced" me to get my butt in gear. It has allowed be to place important tasks in a manageable time frame. I have also learned to limit how much we do outside of the home, as too many busy days running around can tend to leave tasks undone. That creates extra work the following day, and can quickly become a snowball effect. Blah! As an additional effort, I have up'd my bedtime as well. I am a night owl by nature, but unfortunately that means I like to sleep in too! Sleeping in causes a big delay in getting my day started. By heading to bed earlier, I wake up earlier, thus getting a good head start on my chores. Let's face it, I don't want to still be doing housework, when I should be sitting down for the night.
I have also assigned my kids daily chore lists. This has helped remove the little tedious tasks off of my list-- empty trash cans, clear shoes from entry way, put own laundry away, feed dog, pick up toys. It allows me to focus on the bigger tasks of house cleaning-- dusting, bathrooms, vacuum, mopping. I do let the kids help out with those tasks occasionally too. Since they are still learning how to do the bigger tasks correctly, I limit their weekly help in those areas. Half a can of furniture polish for one table, told me they weren't ready yet :)
Overall, I have felt complete, like I am living up to each day. It's a good feeling to sit down at night, knowing I don't have uncompleted chores looming over me. I can go to bed knowing that tomorrow is a new day, and that I don't have to play catch-up. In our house, a happy stress-free mom, makes for a happy stress-free home!
Here is list of weekly chores, to help you get started. I grouped them, to show which tasks I do on the same day. This helps eliminate having to do a task twice during the week (ex. vacuuming the floor prior to mopping). I only schedule one or two groups of weekly tasks per day. I don't schedule any chores on the weekend, as that is my family time (besides doing dishes)!
Weekly
Dust all furniture
Clean glass doors/windows
Wipe down ceiling fans
Vacuum-- floors, under couch cushions, base boards
Mop--all floors
Bathrooms cleaned--toilets, sinks, shower/tub
Clip coupons
Menu planning for week
Grocery list made
Grocery shop
Pay bills
Errands
Scheduled events/activities (outside of home)
A few times during the week
De-clutter counter tops
Trash emptied
Laundry
Bed sheets changed *Once a week, on a day you do laundry
Toys/shoes/piles picked up off floor
Daily
Dishes
"She carefully watches everything in her household and suffers nothing from laziness. Her children stand and bless her. Her husband praises her: 'There are many virtuous and capable women in the world, but you surpass them all!'" Proverbs 31:27-29